There are a number of reasons that New Jersey couples may decide to divorce, but therapists have identified one key sign that a marriage may be on the rocks. When one or both partners feel hopeless about the future of the relationship, it can be a strong indicator of the likelihood of divorce. People in strong relationships may feel more positive not only about their partnerships but about other aspects of their life. In fact, the relationship can be a shelter during stressful periods at work or with other family relationships.
One therapist said that when she assesses a couple’s likelihood of divorce, she looks for hopelessness about the future of the relationship as a main indicator. People who feel hopeless are often committed to ending the relationship and beginning to come to terms with the fact that it is over. This backs up the findings of a study which found that disappointment and disillusionment in the marriage were most likely to predict a future split. Couples who reported hopeless feelings when the study began were likely to divorce within three years.
There are several factors that could contribute to this kind of hopelessness or disillusionment. Some couples may marry especially young or have romantic illusions about marriage that were dispelled by everyday life. In other cases, people simply may have discovered basic incompatibilities or serious problems, like addiction, infidelity or excessive spending.
Once people have decided to divorce, they may have questions about the financial and practical repercussions that accompany the end of a marriage. A family law attorney can provide advice and representation on a range of legal issues including property division, child custody and spousal support.