There are many reasons why New Jersey couples seek marital dissolution. Despite the difficulties and uncertainties during the divorce process, the end result is a new life for both, and this generally is a good thing. For ex-couples who also have children together, however, their new lives are inevitably and inextricably intertwined. If they can maintain a cordial relationship, co-parenting will be much easier. Unfortunately, some relationships deteriorate to the point of toxicity or outright hostility.
If lines of communication remain between the parents remain open and viable, the differences can be worked out to stabilize and keep the kids’ development on a positive track. In some cases, however, one parent may act completely unreasonably while the other is at wit’s end in trying to figure out how to respond. There are two standards never to lose sight of when trying to deal with an out of control ex.
For starters, never forget that the child’s best interest is paramount. Second, maintain personal dignity and integrity. It is important to remain focused on the kids and not get baited into another never-ending argument. Keep conversations strictly on topic rather than on other subjects that are not relevant. Document the ongoing interactions too. If there are repeated violations of existing court orders regarding the divorce and child custody, consider returning to court to clarify and possibly enforce the provisions.
The initial issues of property division, child custody and spousal support can be difficult from the outset. Furthermore, there may be occasions when it’s necessary to revisit and modify existing orders. An experienced family law attorney can offer advice and counsel on all divorce-related matters.