Raising a child can be difficult even during the best of times. However, it is often more challenging for those who are faced with the prospect of raising a child with a former spouse or partner. Parents will likely be in each other’s lives for years or decades to come. Ideally, those in New Jersey or anywhere else who are faced with the prospect of parenting a child with someone they may not get along with will put the needs of their children first.
It is important for individuals to understand that they don’t get to make decisions on their own. Instead, it is important for both parents to work together to make decisions as to where the child goes to school or what types of medical treatment he or she should receive. Working as a unit minimizes the likelihood that a son or daughter will try to play a mother against a father or vice versa.
Parents should consider whether it is better to be right or to be at peace mentally. In many cases, it is better to let the small things slide as opposed to fighting about them. Parents should also realize that neither they nor their co-parent is a perfect person. Therefore, it is natural for each person to disagree with some of the decisions that the other makes.
After a divorce, parents may try to get sole custody of a child or attempt to get as much child support as possible. However, it is important to note that state law plays a role in determining how issues relating to a child are resolved. Generally speaking, the best interests of the child trump the needs or desires of the parent. Legal counsel may help individuals work to create a parenting plan.